The holidays can be extremely difficult to navigate when you are going through a divorce or legal separation, or even thinking about beginning the process. When children are involved, it is very important to remain cognizant that you are still a family, you are always going to be a family, just a different type of family. Your children love both of their parents more than anything, and they have no way of understanding the conflict and should be completely insulated from same. They want to spend time with both of you as a family.
The holidays provide you with the opportunity to build a strong co-parenting relationship by scheduling time to spend as a family during the major holidays. Start small, an hour, two hours, but carve out time when you all will be spending time together as a family; and make the choice to enjoy that time together celebrating family traditions.
According to the statute, children typically emancipate when they graduate from high school; however, we all know that parenting does not end when your child emancipates. It is a forever responsibility, and you and your fellow co-parent will be in each other’s lives until the day one of you dies. You have a long co-parenting journey ahead, and it is your choice as to whether it will be wonderful or awful. Choose the high energy choice of your co-parenting relationship being WONDERFUL and start by enjoying some holiday time with your family this season. Your children will benefit greatly from seeing you both spend this special time together with them, as a family, just a different family than you were before.