Significant others can cause severe damage to a co-parenting relationship if not handled in a respectful, mindful and kind manner. Many times these individuals are seen in a negative light, as threats or as people trying to take over the parent’s role. A shift in the way we view significant others can create a strong and loving co-parenting relationship that is focused on your children. Life is meant to be lived, and love, light and energy received from a partner is one of the most beautiful gifts of the experience. When a significant other comes into your co-parenting relationship, it is important to help manage the expectations of all parties involved – the parents, the children, and the significant other; thus enabling everyone to know their role and lane. The parents are the ones making the decisions regarding the children, and creating discipline rules and a parenting plan that works for their family. The significant other is there to help the parents execute the decisions, and are also there to provide love and support to the co-parent and the children. The children are there to enjoy their lives and grow up in a healthy, happy, all-inclusive, and ever-expanding co-parenting family. Significant others can be huge blessings to a co-parenting relationship. They are making your fellow co-parent happy, and a happy co-parent is significantly easier to work with than an unhappy co-parent; and they are providing love and support to your children, and the more love and support given to our children the better!
Embracing the concept that we are all on an individual life journey to express our unique life purpose helps to shift to the mindset of gratitude for your co-parent. Throughout our journey we have different people coming in and out of our lives to provide us with learnings we are to take with us moving forward. Your co-parent gifted you with your beautiful children, one of the greatest gifts to be grateful and thankful for. When you make this shift you can truly support and celebrate the successes of your co-parent. Not only is it beneficial for your co-parenting relationship when both parents are happy and moving forward in an empowering manner, but it is tremendously beneficial for your children as well. We want our children to see both parents living out their dreams and experiencing a full and happy life, and we also want them to see that their parents are supportive and celebrating in the other’s fabulous achievements. What a powerful message you are sending to your children when you do so. Be happy, live your best life, be true to yourself, and celebrate in the success of your co-parent and others! It is a choice to make this shift, and you are in complete control of making that choice. Choose happiness and elevation!
An attitude of gratitude creates a complete shift in the way you are looking at, and thus experiencing, your co-parenting relationship and the parenting of your children. Being mindful of the power of gratitude, and striving to constantly live in a state of gratitude has the power to change your life. We all have so much to be grateful for – having a roof over our head, food in the refrigerator, clothing covering our bodies. Children are special gifts that are most certainly something to be grateful for. They have changed your life and have taught you how to love unconditionally. They are your teachers, your heart, your most cherished relationship, and your responsibility. You have a responsibility to parent in the best manner you can, to give it your all.
Working with your co-parent, as opposed to against your co-parent, will help you to parent at your highest level. Shifting your mindset with regards to your co-parent to an attitude of gratitude can greatly improve your unified front relationship for the benefit of your children. Focus on the life lessons learned and personal growth you experienced as a result of being in a relationship with your co-parent, and be grateful for those lessons learned and growth achieved. You could have had children with anyone, but your children would not be the same exact children you now have the honor of parenting. This alone is a huge reason to express gratitude towards your co-parent. Without you two being together your children would not be here. There is always something to be grateful for, in your life, the trick is doing the work to focus on what it is and to express extreme gratitude towards it. Anger and gratitude cannot exist simultaneously. Express gratitude, feel good, and live your best life as the parent you have always wanted to be!