Serving As A Unified Front For Your Children

No matter what happened between you and your spouse, when children are involved, both of you have an obligation and responsibility to raise your children and provide them with all of the love and support that is needed to enable them to live wonderful lives. Both parents need to serve as a unified front for their children, requiring you both to be on the same page and have strong lines of communication. Kids growing up in today’s world have so much to navigate through – social media, bullying, technology, education competitiveness, etc., and they should not need to worry about their parents’ relationship.

As co-parents, you both need to show your children that you are both here for them and that you both are talking constantly about them and working together to problem-solve and provide support for them. Serving as a unified front lets your children know that you are still a family, just a different family. You are both still their parents, and even though you live in different homes, you are still on top of everything and working together to ensure your children thrive… because you love them more than anything… and because it feels good to support them and show them that you will always be here for them.

Setting An Intention With Your Children

Setting an intention for your children is a wonderful way for both parents to become aligned with regards to vision, hopes and dreams for their kids. Set an intention for your children by yourself first. Really focus in on what you want for your children and write these thoughts down in a journal. What type of life do you want them to live? How do you want them to feel, in general and also specifically when they see both of their parents in the same room together? You both are forming your children’s thoughts and beliefs regarding relationships, respect, kindness, and parenting. What belief systems do you want your children to create in their beautiful minds?

Once this exercise is completed, schedule a time to connect with your co-parent so you can each share the intentions you have set for your children.

This is a fantastic way for you both to become aligned in your co-parenting relationship. Both parents will have their expectations managed, and both will make choices moving forward that are supportive of ensuring that the intentions set for your children are actualized.

Choice

When you are going through the divorce or separation process, one of the biggest shifts you can make is when you fully understand that it is a choice how your child is going to be affected by the dissolution or separation. It is a choice made by both parents, together and separately. Children are energetic beings, just as everything and everyone else in our environment. They will follow your words, actions and energy. If you and your co-parent choose to be on the same page with regards to your narrative shared with your child, and goals for your child and your co-parenting relationship, you will be able to communicate and share a positive, loving and exciting transition from your pre-dissolution or separation family to your post-post-dissolution or separation family.

It is always a choice, and you (and only you) are in complete control of the choices you make in your life. Make the conscious choice to have a fabulous co-parenting relationship with your ex for the benefit of your child, you and your co-parent. It’s just as easy as making a choice to have a terrible relationship with your co-parent and to fight and speak badly about the other parent in front of your child. The main difference is the first choice is high energy and makes your child and both parents feel good, and the second choice makes everyone feel bad, sad and stuck in a low energy environment. Choose high energy! Choose a supportive co-parenting relationship! Choose to teach your child the meaning and importance of respect, kindness, parenting, and love through your actions, words and energy!