Thanksgiving last week served as a great reminder of the importance of practicing gratitude and thankfulness. Every moment of every day we have a choice to express gratitude for all that is in our life or to focus on all that is not in our life. Implementing a practice of gratitude into your everyday life will shift your focus onto all that you are grateful for and will distance you from the negative thoughts and emotions experienced from focusing on all that we do not want or have in our life.

When going through a divorce or separation, make a conscious effort to shift from from low energy thoughts of anger, frustration, lack, disappointment, hate, and unfulfilled promises to the high energy thoughts focused on gratitude for all of the gifts received from the relationship or marriage – gratitude for the life lessons learned, for the personal growth you experienced, and for the beautiful gifts in the form of children or pets you received from the relationship.

Start noticing the physical cues your body gives you when you choose the high energy thought, emotion or feeling. When you implement an attitude of gratitude into your everyday life you will start to feel more free, lighter and all-around better. You and only you are in control of how you feel and making a low energy or high energy choice in every moment of every day. Make the shift to high energy thoughts and start changing your life!

Consistent Messaging

It can be extremely uncomfortable to be surrounded by your in-laws or shared friends during the holidays when you are going through a divorce. An empowering way to approach the holidays is to create a consistent narrative that you and your spouse will share with family and friends prior to spending time with them for the holidays.

The narrative can be as simple as the decision was made by both of you, that you both are in agreement that this is the best thing for you to do right now and that you are choosing to continually make the high-level energy choices. You are choosing to look at your divorce as an opportunity to heal, grow, learn, and move you forward towards your life purpose. You are choosing to use this divorce as a catalyst for positive change in all areas of your life, and to use it as an opportunity to grow as a person, parent and community member. You are choosing to look at it as a life lesson to learn more about your self and what positive impact you want to make in this lifetime and to get you more aligned with expressing your life purpose, which will provide love and service to the World.